Grooming the Ring Bearer

Boys Suits

So the big day is about to arrive; and in preparation for the occasion of your wedding, you have selected the perfect young man to fill the role of your ring bearer.

Ah, but the question is, is the child himself prepared for the role that plays such an integral role in the biggest occasion of your life?

No pressure there, right? You yourself are probably stressing the day of your wedding; so just imagine how a young child or teen must feel; especially if they have to hold or keep track of the ring—perhaps the most important symbol in the ceremony. Here are a few practical tips on how to groom the ring bearer:

  • Make sure that the young man understands the duties and responsibilities that come with the position of ring bearer. This isn’t the easiest role in the wedding, so be sure that the boy knows when to claim the ring, when to carry it, and when to hand it off to the best man. The ring bearer is, in some ways, the second best man in any given wedding—make sure he knows and understands this role.
  • At the same time, encourage the ring bearer to ‘ring in’ the festivities and have fun. A wedding is a loving and festive occasion, especially for the young people involved—encourage him to look forward to and celebrate the festivities.
  • Let the ring bearer know that he doesn’t have to be perfect; after all, no one else in the ceremony will be; everyone is bound to make a mistake or two. And all will be forgiven in the name of love and family.
  • Encourage the ring bearer to get the hang of it—or perhaps the ring of it. The more he understands and practices his duties, the more confident he’ll be on the big day.

Growing the Flower Girl

Flower Girl Dresses

Cute little girl in her flower girl dress

So you’ve selected the very lucky young lady who will serve as the flower girl in your much anticipated wedding ceremony. She is bound to be honored, excited…and, in all probability, scared out of her wits.

…well, perhaps that’s an understatement. The fact is, though, that this is a young child who faces the task of carrying off a substantial part of the wedding ceremony; and in the presence of dozens or perhaps hundreds of watching adults. She may be tense and bashful at this prospect, or even experiencing anxiety at what may seem—at least in a child’s eyes—to be a daunting role.

Here are a few ideas on how to grow the flower girl:

Reassure your flower girl that absolute perfection is not part of the job description. Tell her that you yourself might mess up during the ceremony; and that, in all likelihood, the gathered crowd will laugh along with you at any minor mess ups and proceed with the ceremony.

Remind your flower girl that the occasion of your wedding is a fun family event. Encourage her to enjoy herself and look forward to the big day.

Be sure to explain thoroughly to your flower girl the duties and responsibilities associated with her role in the wedding. Depending on her age and maturity level, you may have to repeat these instructions several times; just be sure that she understands exactly what will be expected of her throughout the course of the ceremony.

Practice, practice, practice. Everyone feels more comfortable about a job, task or duty if they are able to practice it ahead of time; and even before the wedding rehearsal, you might want to run the flower girl through the paces of her wedding day duties. Encourage her to behave, smile, have fun, and spread joy and happiness along with the flower petals!

Ring in the Ring Bearer

Boys Tuxedo Ring Bearer

Ring Bearer in a Boys Tuxedo

In the context of any marriage ceremony, the wedding ring takes a long journey before it makes it onto the bride’s finger; and this journey begins with the adorable little ring bearer that carries this timeless golden symbol to the altar.

Aside from being incredibly cute, the ring bearer holds a number of important responsibilities throughout the course of the ceremony. That is why the selection and preparation of a ceremonial ring bearer may not be as easy as it looks:

  • The ring bearer should probably be over the age of 3-4; this owing to the fact that the cargo he’s carrying is integral to the ceremony. No matter how drop dead cute he may be, you don’t want a ring bearer that might drop the ring or lose it altogether before he reaches the altar; and far more seriously, you don’t want to take a chance that the child might try to chew on or swallow the pretty little band in his possession. In addition, you want to choose a ring bearer that will be able to walk slowly and quietly down the aisle; smiling cheerfully as he does so.
  • Dress the ring bearer in much the same fashion as the groom and best man. An elegant tuxedo might be most suitable, as might a miniature three-piece suit; one that adheres to the color scheme of the wedding ceremony.
  • Do some practice runs. Before the wedding, be sure to sit down and explain to the ring bearer just what they are supposed to do with the ring on the day of the ceremony. Go over the entire process with them, explaining how long he is supposed to hold the ring and when and to whom they should relinquish it. Then at the wedding rehearsal, let him try these duties on for size; letting him get the hang—and the ring—of it.

The Importance of a good Boys Suit

Getting the right boys suit can be very essential when going to a party or wedding with your son. Whether you want your son to match the special occasion attire or be the center of the attention, the right suit is very important. First you have to find something that is comfortable. Most kids will not want to wear a tie that because it feels very tight around the neck. Find something with a clip on tie might be more suitable. Second the price, if you were to go to a local mens warehouse they charge $40+ to rent a suit. Your son will only wear it once. Does that sound reasonable in today’s economy? Lastly you want to make sure you find a reliable source to purchase it online. Some online retailers charge YOU a restocking fee if it doesn’t fit. Others will not exchange the size for you. Be sure to do your research when purchasing online like the return policy, sizing, and exchanging. Happy researching!